We all have coworkers who rub us the wrong way, get on our nerves, and generally drive us crazy.
Let's consider these examples of people with difficult coworkers:
1. Ted finished working on a difficult bit of code and headed for the team meeting. When he got there, Sandy looked at her watch and glared at him. "You're late," she snapped. "Hey, it's only ten after," Ted responded.
How selfish! Sandy thought to herself. Ted has no respect for other people's time.
Meanwhile, Ted wondered why Sandy made such a big deal about arriving precisely on time. It's hard to put down what I'm working on when I'm in the middle of something important. Why doesn't Sandy understand that?
2. When the technicians showed up to install more memory in Frank's computer, Frank asked Talia if he could use her machine, since she was going to a meeting. "Sure," Talia replied. When she returned to her cube and logged into her computer, she discovered that Frank had changed the settings.
Sheesh, thought Talia. He asks to use my computer for an hour, and he acts like it's his. I'm never letting him use my computer again. I wonder if he read my mail, too.
Frank, however, was pleased that he'd set up several helpful shortcuts on Talia's machine.
3. Sam greeted Jennifer with a cheery hello as he entered her office. "How was your weekend," he asked. "Did you do anything fun with the family?" Jennifer scowled. "Let's get down to business, Sam," she said.
What a grouch, Sam thought. I'm just trying to be friendly and build a working relationship.
Jennifer, on the other hand, wondered why Sam was so nosey. Doesn't he get that I don't want to discuss my private life at work?